The Basics of Self-Compassion

If you're your own harshest critic, you could probably use a little self-compassion. Rather than beating yourself up for all your flaws and weaknesses, try showing yourself the same kind of compassion you would to those you care about most.

In this video I focus on the basics, the 3 components of self-compassion as developed by self-compassion researcher, Kristin Neff: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

  • Self-kindness = being gentle and understanding with yourself
  • Common humanity = remind yourself that what you are struggling with is part of the shared human experience. We all make mistakes and encounter suffering.
  • Mindfulness = being present and aware of things as they are; responding rather than reacting.

For more on the benefits of self-compassion and why it matters, check out the top 3 reasons to stop shoulding on yourself. If you're a perfectionist and scoff at the thought of being kind to yourself when you make a mistake, learn how to shut up perfectionism

For more tips from researcher Dr. Kristin Neff, check out


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