Stillness is...

“Stillness is...opening up an emotionally clutter-free space and allowing ourselves to feel and think and dream and question.” - Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

Brene’s definition of stillness really resonated with me today (as most of her work resonates with me every day!).

Stillness is not a modern American value. We’re often competing to see who can be the most busy, which many have come to translate to “most important.” But the value of “busy-ness” is running us ragged and robbing us of the chance to be still and mindful of who we are, what we want, and what’s most important to us. Our minds and hearts need time and space to just be. To listen and tune in. 

How can we expect to lead fulfilling lives if we never stop for a moment to ask what that means to us?

Meaningful lives don’t just happen. Meaningful lives are built from daily choices to mindfully live in our values.

First we must know what our values are, which requires space and time for stillness. Time for thinking through our intentions rather than trying to speed through life like a freight train.

My main goal for 2018 is to be more intentional about stillness in my life. It can be hard when we feel pulled in so many directions or if we're avoiding difficult thoughts & emotions that we fear might come up when we stop long enough to allow them. But the more that I allow myself space, the better I am able to provide myself what I need. Meeting my own needs is crucial to being there for other people and doing the work that I'm so passionate about - and that is true for you no matter what you do.

Don’t let the busy myth fool you. Meaning is be found in the stillness. If you want to pursue busy-ness, keep choosing more and more without stopping. Fulfillment is found in choosing less and taking the time to choose well.

I'm choosing less in 2018.  Who's with me?

 

Check out my other blogs about mindfulness and meditation for strategies for stillness AND about meeting your needs through self-compassion.